Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Family Disease

So I've been a bit busy lately. I am so sick of alcoholism, I've said it before and I'll say it again-It sucks big donkey dick. It just does. It's once again rearing its ugly head in one of my loved ones. My big brother (Uncle Drunkle) is currently in the hospital ICU suffering from alcohol withdrawal. He got there by falling off a ladder on Saturday and has been there since. In and out of the ICU. His head injury that he suffered as a result of his fall are the least of his worries right now. They can't seem to get his blood pressure under control because he is detoxing.

When he was being treated in the emergency room, I had a chat with my little brother and my roomie sister. I started out by saying we all know Uncle Drunkle drinks like a fish. The next think I know, my little brother says "Oh geez, we all know this and we know how far you've come Denise but do we really have to go into that NOW?" I could have slapped him silly at that point. He went on for a minute or so and I asked him if I could finish what I was going to say. What I was going to (and finally did) tell them is that we have to worry about alcohol withdrawal since he's going to be hospitalized for a while. If the hospital doesn't know he is an alcoholic, they can't treat him and it is DANGEROUS. He could DIE just from that, never mind the major bump on his head. Lil Bro apologized and agreed this was certainly something we should mention to the hospital.

So here we are a few days later and he IS indeed suffering from alcohol withdrawal (I DID mention it to a nurse, they already knew!). He is in the Intensive Care Unit and is getting the best care possible. I worry more about when he is released. Is he going to hit a packy and get a six pack and a pack of cigs? I hope not, but it is very likely. I will certainly give him all the support he wants or needs but he does have to want it. He knows I am in recovery, he jokes about it every time he sees me. But to me it is not a joke. He is only a few years younger than my dad when my dad passed away. From heart and respiratory disease-brought on by booze and cigarettes. Same thing, different generation. I don't want to lose my brother, but if he continues this way of life, he is going to suffer the same fate as my father. I can't imagine life without my big brother. He is every ones favorite uncle in my family. All of the kids just love him to pieces. But they too will be crushed if we lose him to this disease.

So when all of my friends here say their prayers, and I know you all do-please include Uncle Drunkle. Pray that this is the wake up call that he needs to begin a new life free from alcohol. I love you guys, and appreciate the prayers........Queen......OUT

10 comments:

Gledwood said...

Hi Queens

What a stressful horrible situation. I hope he's better soon.

Of course you had to tell them about the withdrawal. Last thing you want is someone in intensive care fitting out bc of an alcohol problem med staff don't know about ...

As for donkeys ~ have a look at this it might cheer you up

http://gledwood2.blogspot.com/2009/09/seahorses.html

big Jenn said...

Hey girl, I feel ya. My dad had cancer of the throat from cigars and booze and when he went in for surgery his brother told them he drank once in awhile.Yeah, right. He would have died from withdrawel or had serious complications from that during his operation. Dad did not stop drinking after that. It finally killed him. The disease is powerful, very powerful!
Be grateful you know it and are sober, it could easily be you or I. I'll say a prayer for your brother. You never know. Perhaps a 12 step call from someone besides you. Ask the social workers at the hospital if they do any interventions with alcoholic patients. jeNN

Gin said...

I faced sort of a similar issue when my husband was hospitalized. His parents live in denial and would have never mentioned the alcoholism. They believe in keeping that "little problem" on the down low. I let the doctor know though because that is a huge issue. Thinking of you and your brother.

Jess Mistress of Mischief said...

God be with uncle Drunkle and with Queenie today as she worries. Help them to see your work in their lives to get them free of the disease that binds them.

Much love to you, your family is in my prayers.

Syd said...

I hope that he gets the message. I sometimes wonder what it takes before a person realizes that alcohol is a killer.

Indigo said...

Keeping your brother in my prayers on the smoke dear friend. We never know what will wake someone up. Hopefully this is enough of a scare he gets the picture.

(Hugs)Indigo

Lou said...

People in alcohol withdrawal exhibit classic signs that tip off the medical staff. It would be extremely rare for someone to die of alcohol withdrawal in the ICU. But, you were trying to cover all the bases, which is good.
I hope your brother gets it, he may not have many more chances.

MEM said...

Y'all are in my prayers.

diane d said...

(((((hugs))))) Praying here.

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