Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Relapse


I have a friend who I have been trying to help. I think I mentioned him in an earlier post, just out of rehab, friend of my sisters'. Anywho-he has been out of contact recently and I assumed he had relapsed and I was correct. Sometimes I hate it when I am right. He finally called me last night and he was drunk but kind of coherent. He may not even remember speaking to me. Hell I would talk to all kinds of people back in the day and not remember a thing the next day. Memories.... Hell I sometimes do that now. Some aspects of getting older do suck. It's still a blessing that I am getting older at all. If I didn't quit drinking I know I would probably have died by now.
So anyway, back to my friend. He said that he is going crazy (you think?) and he want to come to the Beach House meeting tonight. I told him he is welcome, no one will judge-yada yada. It's true though. No matter what, you are always welcome back at an AA meeting. He kept going on that he has no one to talk to, no one knows his story, no one drinks like he does/did for the last 30 years. Yes that was probably his drunkenness blabbering on, but if he thinks his story is any worse than any of ours he is sadly mistaken. We all have our stories, our jackpots, we have all hurt our families, etc. Maybe he thinks there are special meetings out there for "special" alcoholics like him, I don't know. I told him to NOT drink today and get off his ass and come to the meeting. He is kind of shy, but he needs to get involved with some men in the fellowship and start the damn work that it takes to stay sober. Its a lot of work and no one can do it for him. So I hope he sticks around this time. I told him I don't want to lose another friend to this disease and he informed me he wasn't going to drink himself to death. Yea, right. Just like Jennifer didn't. I swear this disease is so powerful. I hate it. I hate it enough to continue to try to help those that are still sick and suffering and really WANT the help. It is all I can do, and I shall. Gotta go get ready for the best AA meeting in Ct. Queen.....OUT

7 comments:

Lou said...

I'm glad he called you, and glad you said what you did when he called.

Cat said...

Good thing you were there.

Syd said...

Queenie, I hope that he shows up. I always pray for the sick and suffering. There are many and not all are alcoholic.

Gledwood said...

re "special" meetings, I once took to wondering whether there are special Superior Persons Meetings in the vicinity of Los Angeles (ie "celebridy" meedings ~ do yer think so~?)
yes I hope he shows up too.
when you said "relapse" I was so hoping you weren't talking about yourself. but you know I of all people would never look down on you if you ever did, I just want you to know that (and I feel kind of tearful inside just saying it ~ ooer! %-/...)

Gledwood said...

ps I've noticed nearly everyone in your Recovering Alcoholics loop has Comment Moderation? and can't help wondering why. Does it say something about the recovering alkie's psychology and sensibility to need to open and peruse their own mail before pinning it on a public board (which is fair enough, let's face it!) ... or has there been a dreaded rubbishposter ANONYMOUS commenter in times past causing unwarrated chaos?
I've never ever had moderated comments on mine (in fact I'd not know how to "moderate" a comment) nor do I have the spam-busting randomnesswordfilter and the worst that's ever got through was ads for Viagra in Chinese, ~~which I only know about thanks to the wonders of Google Translate!

Gabriella Moonlight said...

Thanks for having a hand out for him to grab, if he does grab it...
I was told point blank, "you are not terminally unique, sit down and listen for awhile before you comment at a meeting and find where you are!" Period..I did it, I was in pain...thank you for being there!
G

Zanejabbers said...

You are just my kind of gal. Always there. I find it very difficult to talk to someone when they are drunk. Am I afraid I will catch something. Can't - I've already got it. Hope your friend showed up for himself. Good for you, my Queen.